Sometimes beating the odds is simply a matter of chance. Roll the dice enough times, win the lottery, whatever. More often than not, I think Divine Intervention and personal effort can affect outcomes. Today I want to recognize all the couples who beat the odds by remaining married through:
chronic illness or pain
a child with a chronic illness
the loss of a child
financial changes or bankruptcy
different cultural backgrounds
alcoholism or substance abuse
These stresses, and others, decrease the odds of a successful marriage, so if you have experienced any of these roadblocks and find that both partners have worked through things sufficiently that you are happily married to any degree, count it as a miracle.
On Sunday we talked about how we receive communication from God. I think one word that we use to describe that communication is inspiration. Yesterday I was just listening to the radio and I had a moment of “inspiration,” of “understanding” or “enlightenment” about something that pertained to the world I live in. It mostly was just an understanding that meant something for me, but I really appreciate being better able to understand things. What would the world be like if people no longer received “inspiration?” I think relationships would suffer, medical and technological advances would suffer, quality of life would drastically decrease, etc until we literally would have nothing left. One could try to argue that inspiration is just an intellectual event, but we all know that our intellects can be flawed. When is the last time you had a moment of inspiration that left you worse off than before the inspiration, or inspiration that didn’t result in something better than our self? Possibly we drastically underestimate the role that communication with God influences the world we live in.
One thing I really truly struggle with is simply accepting that the Lord has a different time frame than I can see. I realized today another example of how His timing is better than mine.
We recently purchased a larger vehicle that would seat our entire family. I knew we needed it, and planned to get it, but I wanted to wait until the new job had settled in a little bit. It made a lot of sense to me to simply wait a few months. It made me feel responsible. Instead opportunities opened up earlier than I had planned on, and I went with it, unhappily but I did it because it felt right.
The last little while with my son’s issues I have been able to help him out in ways that would not have been possible without this particular vehicle. His need for absolute independence has caused him to practically cut us off from most contact. He is on his bike, but there are some things it is just too far and too hot to practically use the bike. As we have worked with getting him to slowly open up and trust us again the first thing he is taking advantage of is the ability to throw his bike in the back and get a ride one direction. It is a small step in the relationship, but one that we would not have been able to take if we didn’t have this vehicle until the end of the summer.