Tag Archive | patience

Child’s Faith

I try to teach my children to decide what they want in life, consult with the Lord, then go forward to make it happen, having faith that the path will be opened for them.  My middle daughter really wanted to be a part of the theater production this year.  We have some serious scheduling conflicts with the rehearsal times, but told her if she really wanted it to go for it anyway and we would find a way.  She auditioned but didn’t make it.  It was tough but she put on her best face and said “There is always next year.”  The next week she got a call.  They had missed a pile of people to call to invite to be a part of the behind the scenes.  She was ecstatic.  She just wanted to be involved.  Not only that, but the crew she got put on has a different schedule and we have no more scheduling conflicts.

Then there came the mandatory parent meeting.  Both her father and I were working and did not have enough notice to get off of work.  I tried contacting some other parents I knew were involved, but no luck.  Then that morning I got an e-mail that something had come up and we had to make a last minute change to my schedule.  A hole opened up exactly during the parent meeting and I was able to attend.

The best part was my daughter looking at me, smiling, and saying, “You were right Mom.  Things do work out if they are supposed to.”  I smiled back and said, “That was your faith in action Katie.”

 

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Patience Deficiency

Last week I had to travel across the state to pick up my kids from college.  Long story short, a lot of things were just not coming together the way I had tried to plan them.  I spent a significant amount of time, worry and money to get things to all work out in the end.  Eventually everything went very smoothly, and a few things worked out better than I had planned.  I would even call it a wonderful trip.  I’m calling it, directing paths.

On the way home we were listening to a motivational speaker who pointed out that too often we do not understand the consequences of our choices simply because we fail to look far enough into the future.  I think the same holds true with our everyday faith.  If we had the ability to see far enough ahead to understand how things will really work out, we would be much more willing to allow the Lord to direct our daily paths, and much more appreciative of his hand in things.  We may even be grateful for our trials.  Of course that would make the test far too easy, so instead we struggle with lack of vision and serious deficiencies of patience.

Stamina, and Personal Confessions

Background:  The last few years, when my husband was very sick, the thing he lacked the most was stamina.  I remember one family trip he drove for about 30 minutes, then collapsed into a useless heap, asking me to finish the trip myself, and care for all of the children and all of the activities as well.  The doctors ran test after test, and saw no reason for the extreme fatigue, constant pain, and lack of stamina.  He had trouble finishing anything he started.  He became unemployed and unemployable.  Their conclusion was that it was mental.  They ran mental health tests, and concluded he was inventing fictitious health reasons to not want to work, or do anything.  Marriage counselors all concluded that the situation was hopeless, and that it was time to give up.  They tried to convince me that it was not chronic pain that made him mean and unemployed, but that I needed to accept the reality of the person I had married and get on with my life without him.  Not that I thought he was perfect, but this was not the person I knew, and I chose to turn to the Lord for help instead.  The road to health and functioning was painfully slow, but eventually he did recover.

Yesterday:  We had a day off of school/work, and decided to repaint and re-carpet an additional bedroom.  After working on the bedroom all day, he went in to work for a few hours, then at 9:30pm, when he got done and had helped put the kids to bed, he got ready to go back and work in the bedroom again.  I had to beg him not to.  He has nasty allergies, and a severe cough.  He had already pushed himself beyond what was considered reasonable or necessary.  The room should be done today anyway.

Conclusion:  According to the “experts” there is no miracle here.  He simply changed his attitude.  Not true.  The pain has subsided, the fatigue is at “normal” levels for someone with seven kids, and the stamina is not only more normal, but his positive attitude frequently pushes him even further.  I guess it is a choice to believe in that miracle or not.  I am especially grateful for the stamina.

Miracle number two is that we still have our family.  You could argue that was ultimately my choice.  True, but I believe most miracles are the result of our choices.  I simply remember being told over and over that the situation was hopeless.  It obviously was not hopeless.  With God, nothing is hopeless.

And the Greatest of these is LOVE

Found myself praying for some much needed wisdom today.  Felt blessed that my prayer was answered so quickly, so I thought I’d share the answer I needed to hear.

Use LOVE.  LOVE is not a default position.  LOVE is not simply something we do because we don’t know what else we can do.  LOVE is our Father in Heaven’s greatest tool in dealing with us.  Christ made no bones that LOVE is the substance of both the greatest and second greatest commandments.  The word LOVE has multiple definitions and connotations, but the most powerful type of LOVE is not simply a feeling, it is an action verb that describes an intangible power.  LOVE literally creates entire civilizations, and the absence of it destroys them.  LOVE speaks to hearts, not to minds.  No teaching, lecturing, or information has any value if there is not LOVE attached to it.  Yet, even the smallest piece of knowledge, shared with LOVE, can change the future.

I was also reminded of a quote I heard somewhere that it is not so much that love is blind, but that love has the ability to see something in another person that others have missed.

Do Nothing

As I have been working on listening more carefully for promptings of what I am supposed to be doing with my time, I have been getting an overwhelming answer of “do nothing” or even “just wait.”  Several times it was simply to keep my mouth shut.  I think that is the hardest thing for me personally to do.  Nothing – or less – or the seemingly unproductive.

Other than the fact that I have had a cold and probably needed the rest anyway, it has been interesting to see the results.  I have probably accomplished just as much as other weeks, but I think I have been guided to more things that I would not have personally chosen to do with my time.  The things that have gotten accomplished were simply different types of things than I had intended to get done.  I have been much more patient with both others and with myself.  I hope some doors have even been opened so that I can act on them when the time is right.  A few things even worked out fine without my intervention.  Some didn’t.

Does anyone else have trouble “doing nothing” even when they know they shouldn’t.

Reasons for Trials

 

A few years ago I went through the hardest trial that I had ever faced.  Long story short it involved a severe mental health crisis of a close family member and some catastrophic malpractice from the medical community.  It was one of those trials that eventually do get better, but when it is “over” you aren’t quite sure who won.  The type you stand back and say, I’m not sure I wanted to go through that, but everyone is still breathing, so I guess we are okay.

Had a little perspective on that particular trial these last few weeks.  Someone else I am close to may be facing a similar challenge, and a much longer road.  If needed, this time I will have some tools to deal with it, and some knowledge that I did not have before.  I would be in a unique position to help ease those burdens.  So putting things in perspective, what I saw as a miserable and unfair challenge to me, may actually have just been preparation to be able to help someone else.  If that is what I face, will my previous trial be worth the pain I went through?  Probably, yes.  I still didn’t want it, and I pray that this new problem will never escalate to the level I faced before, but if it does I will be able to make someone else s life easier – and isn’t that what this life is about?

The “miracle” is that God knows enough to prepare people and strengthen them.  My anger that I had to go through the initial difficulties would have been avoided if I had had perspective.  Yet, lack of perspective is what helps us grow.