Tag Archive | Relationships

Friendship

I am at a rather strange place in my life where I have decided I need all new friends.  Or at least to reconnect with old friends again.  As I look back at my week there were four people who did more to help me this week than any of my “friends” have this entire summer.  Three were old friends who we don’t cross paths as often any more, and one is a person I had only met once before.  I think friendship is something that I have taken for granted too often.  A friend who goes out of their way to see how you are doing is a blessing that can too easily be dismissed.   When we find a good friend who can support and help us, and we can return the favor, I think that qualifies as a miracle.

 

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Ode to the Hug

Had a lot of talk about hugs yesterday.  Today’s blog is an ode to the calming, nurturing, and comforting nature of a simple hug.  It can communicate and change people.  Just a simple hug, but it can be so powerful.  Was prompted to hug a child a while back and learned something I would not have known otherwise.  Was reminded to hug another child as well, multiple times.  Was reminded that even teenage boys need hugs.  What is your favorite hug story?

The Mouth of Babes

It never ceases to amaze me how often our children teach us.  My six year old came up to me yesterday (she is rather mature for her age) and let me know she had made a new friend.

She told me she was out walking the dog (she just noticed he needed a walk, so she took care of it), and she ran into one of the neighbors.  These neighbors live across the street and have a work schedule that is quite different than ours, so they aren’t home much when we are.  They are really nice people, but we just don’t know them too well.  She said they had a new teenager living with them, and that they had become instant friends.  Long story short, my six year old initiated a new friendship and opened some doors to get to know our neighbors better!  She even set up another time to get together.  That was something I should really have done, but I just haven’t.  I had spent all day trying to think of someone I could do something nice for, but my daughter just went next door and did what I had not figured out.

My children amaze me.

And the Greatest of these is LOVE

Found myself praying for some much needed wisdom today.  Felt blessed that my prayer was answered so quickly, so I thought I’d share the answer I needed to hear.

Use LOVE.  LOVE is not a default position.  LOVE is not simply something we do because we don’t know what else we can do.  LOVE is our Father in Heaven’s greatest tool in dealing with us.  Christ made no bones that LOVE is the substance of both the greatest and second greatest commandments.  The word LOVE has multiple definitions and connotations, but the most powerful type of LOVE is not simply a feeling, it is an action verb that describes an intangible power.  LOVE literally creates entire civilizations, and the absence of it destroys them.  LOVE speaks to hearts, not to minds.  No teaching, lecturing, or information has any value if there is not LOVE attached to it.  Yet, even the smallest piece of knowledge, shared with LOVE, can change the future.

I was also reminded of a quote I heard somewhere that it is not so much that love is blind, but that love has the ability to see something in another person that others have missed.

Social Phobias

 

After 20 years of marriage, I had never heard my mother-in-law sing or play the piano.  I was always told about how talented she was, but she would never perform when people were around.  She blamed it on social phobias.  Last night she both performed numerous pieces for us, and sang a solo!  Never thought I’d see that.  Guess sometimes we just have to wait for the time to be right.

 

Power of Decision

 

Nature

 

I’m finally home, and at my computer.  Today I wanted to reflect on the power each of us has in us to achieve our goals.  I was teaching a lesson on building stronger family relationships through mercy and not judging.  I wanted to take that lesson into my life, and as I did so, and acted on my promptings I found a new friend in my family that I didn’t know I had.

 

My oldest daughter also had a similar experience.  She had made a commitment to be more social and outgoing.  This is something that is very difficult and intimidating for her.  But as she did her part, started reading books on friendship, and connecting a little more on facebook, she too has been blessed.  Within one month of her commitment to improving herself she has got new roommates who I think will help her with that commitment, and she has been asked out by a guy she likes, twice!

 

Sometimes it takes just a little effort, and sometimes it takes a lot of effort, but I believe that we all have the ability to change ourselves.  One of the evidences of where we came from before this life.

 

 

Did “True Love” die with Miracles?

Paolo Uccello's depiction of Saint George and ...

Paolo Uccello’s depiction of Saint George and the dragon,

Just have yesterday and today to document.

Today wasn’t all that exciting.  Paid bills, and boring stuff.  I’ll recognize that it was pretty cool that I didn’t accidentally miss my DH coming home early as I was leaving to run errands, and we were able to plan the rest of the week together.  Just coincidence though.

 

 

Sunday was also uneventful, but the closest thing to a miracle was some husband/wife time alone together despite the seven kids.  Not overly appropriate to cover here, but it did remind me of a cool story from when we were dating that would be more appropriate here.

Our first “real kiss” was an experience to say the least.  We were a little twitterpated to begin with, but as he kissed me something happened that I can not describe.  I was absolutely overcome with an emotion that I had never experienced before, nor have I experienced it since.  I was completely overpowered with an emotion that caused me to start shaking and sobbing.  I couldn’t do anything but hold him close and sob.  This lasted for about an hour.

In my mind that night I decided that I could not describe, rationalize, or justify my response.  At the time I decided that he would probably be too nice to dump me right away, but to prepare myself for the inevitable.  The loss would be completely my fault.  For some odd reason we kept dating, we kept kissing, etc. and rather than realizing that he was not dumping me, I pushed the incident completely out of my mind.

Initially I thought that we just had some sort of crazy chemistry thing going on.  As I married him, matured, and had some better hindsight, I developed a different theory.  I think that it was a message for me that I had found the person I was supposed to marry.  You hear sappy, silly stories of the poor damsel in distress who is rescued by the prince, they kiss and “their fate is sealed” and they live happily ever after.  I’m the first person to say that that is silliness.  However, maybe part of it isn’t supposed to be.  Maybe in days gone by we were better at recognizing that there are messages for us from powers greater than our cell phones.  Maybe God does try to talk to us, maybe He does try to let us know who we are supposed to marry, but we are too stubborn to listen.  I know I was more than a little stubborn.

Anyhow, several months later, when I realized that he WAS a match for me, I began to pray that I would know for sure if I was supposed to marry him.  I was surprised that my answer was that I had already been told.  I think I was told many times along the way, I had just failed to notice each one.  The kiss was just the first answer that I had missed.

It beggs the question of just how many wonderful things we miss in the name of being logical, rational, and denying any potential divine intervention in our lives?